Here is it ladies, how to be Super-mom in just five easy steps. Are you ready?
- Keep play dough in the house for those really bad days when you all just need some stress relief. Break out the squishy stuff, and some cookie cutters; and just — chill. Listen to your kids as they describe what they are making. Mix a few colors. Roll a giant snake, or make a snowman. Breath. Be a kid for a few minutes.
- Read books. Lots of books. Preferably, read the books before trying to finish an article on your phone, that way you don’t have to hear “do I just need to figure out how to read it myself?” from your 3.5 year old.
- Make a mess. Have your kids help cook. (Deep breathing, required) Try to keep your instructions to a minimum — at least the ones that come out like “I SAID STOP TOUCHING! SERIOUSLY. JUST WAIT!!!” Smile. Let them help with dishes. And then show them how to dry the counter, and floor. Tell them thank you for helping you …and mean it.
- Teach your kids to work. Have them do chores. Make them responsible for a few things. “Oh you left the house with no cup? You should have grabbed that, huh?” Turn those babies into Handy-Helpers, and then into grown-ups.
- Stop trying to be Super-Mom. None of us have it all together. We all raise our voice and then need to apologize (don’t forget to set that example.) We all over schedule some days and end up tired and frustrated. We all get distracted. No mom is perfect. Seriously, your kid doesn’t need super-mom; they need their mom. They need you. They need you to focus on them some times. And sometimes, whether they like it or not, they need you to tell them “GO play. Alone.” They really do. And they will be better for it.
Hang in there, mommas. (Hang in there, self.)